10 Deepthroat Tips to Make Him Lose Control (and Keep You in Charge)

You've got him moaning—but let's take it further. Here’s how to deepthroat like a pro and leave him speechless (in the best way).

He’s gripping the sheets. His breath is ragged. And you’re only halfway down.

If you’ve already started practicing deepthroating—or you’re ready to turn basic oral into something unforgettable—this guide is for you.

Deepthroat isn’t just about depth. It’s about rhythm, domination, wetness, eye contact, and the kind of intensity that makes someone lose all control.

Ready to go from good to absolutely obscene?

Here are 10 deepthroat tips that’ll blow his mind—literally.

1. Use Your Hands Like an Extension of Your Mouth

Even if you can’t take him fully, using your hand at the base of the shaft makes it feel like you do. Stroke in sync with your mouth, matching the rhythm. Add a twist, tighten your grip, and use plenty of spit.

Power tip: Slide your hand all the way down and don’t stop moving when you deepthroat. It’ll send shockwaves through him.

2. Maintain Eye Contact (Even While Gagging)

Lock eyes when you slide down—and especially when your mascara starts to smear.
The mix of visual submission and emotional intensity hits hard.

If you have a gag reflex? Let it show. Watching you struggle and still keep going? That’s the kind of dedication that turns into obsession.

3. Use the “Nose-to-Stomach” Angle

Tilt your head slightly forward so your nose points toward his stomach. This naturally straightens the throat and reduces pressure points.

Use a positioning pillow under your neck or lie with your head hanging off the bed for the ultimate deepthroat angle.

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4. Drip, Don’t Wipe

The messier, the better. Let spit drip from your lips. Let your eyes water. Let your throat make noise. Deepthroat is messy, emotional, and raw—don’t fight it.

Add mouth-safe flavoured lube to make it even wetter and more slippery.

5. Let Him Take Control (Just for a Minute)

Once you’re warmed up, let him hold your head and control the rhythm—gently at first.
It mimics face fucking, adds tension, and makes him feel dominant.

Want to take it up a notch?

Try a face-fuck harness that locks your mouth in place →

6. Use a Ring Gag or Open-Mouth Gag

A ring gag holds your mouth open and prevents jaw fatigue.
More importantly? It puts you in full-service mode. You can’t talk. You can’t stop. You’re just… available.

Tip: Use it for a roleplay scene—obedient toy, used mouth, zero choice.

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7. Suck. Pause. Deep. Pull Back. Repeat.

Don’t just go up and down. Vary your rhythm.

Try this:

• Slow, deep slide
• Pause at the base
• Moan softly
• Pull back fast
• Gag slightly
• Repeat

This play with tempo creates a rollercoaster of tension and release that’s more powerful than speed alone.

8. Talk Dirty (Even With a Mouth Full)

If you can’t talk during it, talk before. Whisper:

• “I want you in my throat.”
• “I’ll take it all for you.”
• “Don’t stop until I’m crying.”

Or say nothing and let your eyes do the talking.

Want to take it to a darker edge? Add some humiliation kink like “Is that all you’ve got?”

9. Film It (Or Use a Mirror)

If your partner is into visuals, deepthroating in front of a mirror or on camera adds another layer of intensity.

You get to see the tears, spit, gagging, and surrender. They get to replay it over and over.

Use a phone stand or position a mirror at the end of the bed. Bonus: you’ll get better at your own angles.

10. Add Roleplay (Submissive? Service Doll? Pup?)

Give it context. Being “used for oral” can be part of a larger kink scene:

• Pup play: On all fours, mouth taped or held open
• Objectification: Being face-fucked like a toy
• Service: Your mouth belongs to them now

Tape your arms and legs in a crawling position. Gag yourself.
Look up at them like the obedient thing you are.

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Products to Take It Deeper (And Dirtier)

• Face Fuck Harnesses – When you’re ready to surrender
• Open-Mouth Gags & Ring Gags – For full visual submission
• Oral Positioning Pillow – To open your throat naturally
• Deepthroat Lube & Flavored Gel – Slick, safe, and tasty
• Phone Stand or Mirror Kit – So they can watch every second
• Bondage Tape – For hands-free, crawling-position obedience

Quick FAQ

Q: Can I deepthroat without gagging?
A: Yes, with training, technique, and practice. Check our how-to guide here →

Q: Is gagging part of the turn-on?
A: For many people, yes. The sounds, the tears, the mess—it’s all part of the raw power exchange.

Q: Should I use toys to train first?
A: Absolutely. Start with a dildo or training gag and build up. Your throat is a muscle—treat it like one.

Want to Learn How to Deepthroat Without Gagging?

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